Sheila’s questions on the2ndtalk.com web site — “OK so I’m normal??… is this really normal???” — resonated with me. Without a lot of open dialog I wondered if what I was experiencing was “natural” or symptomatic of a dread illness. What am I talking about? Perimenopause (PM) and menopause. Poise started the 2nd talk web site so that we can share our stories, gain the knowledge and support we need, and reduce the stigma surrounding this life stage.
I’ve been through it. Chin hair that sprang up overnight and defeated my tweezers. Hot flashes so intense that I wedged myself into a supermarket freezer to escape the burn. Every woman who lives long enough will experience PM and menopause, but we don’t talk much about its challenges and our experiences as we’re going through it. Words like “hot flash,” “night sweats,” “memory fog,” and “incontinence” are often relegated to punch lines in jokes.
Why don’t we talk more openly about PM and menopause? The symptoms, depending on their frequency and intensity, can range from annoying to downright debilitating. I’m hoping that Poise’s the2ndtalk.com will help make talking about this life stage more “acceptable.” I love the honest sharing, support and advice being exchanged on the site.
Norma P.’s story made me smile because she was so matter of fact about her very public bout with a hot flash. “…drops were falling off the tip of my nose onto the desk in front of me! So I began to say, smiling and wiping my face: “I trust that everyone knows what’s going on here…” And all the heads were nodding in the room, except, of course, for the two fathers who had come in at the last minute!” “
And I was happy to read Elwyn’s comment “… menopause meant freedom — freedom from contraception, freedom from your period, freedom from pregnancy scares…” She looks beyond the symptoms and celebrates.
The stories, questions and comments are written by real women. Visit the2ndtalk.com, read some stories or watch a video or two, then come back and leave a link to your favorite 2nd Talk post in the Comments section of today’s “Tales of a PM Woman: the2ndtalk Giveaway” post. By leaving a link to your favorite post you will be entered in a giveaway for a “Hot Flash Prize Pack.” One lucky U.S.-based winner who (1) shares her favorite the2ndtalk.com link in a comment here will win a “Hot Flash Prize Pack” featuring a $50 gift card and Poise products. This giveaway, sponsored by Poise, will close on Friday, November 23 at 6 pm Eastern Time. The Lucky Winner will be announced on my blog and notified via email by Saturday, November 24 at noon Eastern Time.
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